Monday, November 9, 2015

Thinking About Adoption?

A day where my blog will dust itself off  & jump from the shelf. There is no doubt about it this day is very special to my heart & family. 
You can read Eva's Adoption story here & here

I thought I would just jump back in really quick to give some information for those that are inboxing me & asking about adoption, foster care, & the whole beautiful process.
 Nothing too formal-I'm all about causal.  

Many of you know that we adopted our Eva-girl through Foster Care. 
Some of you are new to this Fox world.... So let's get this party started. 
Eva entered our hearts LONG before our home, but she entered our home at 3 months. 
I always thought we would adopt internationally, but God changed our hearts on "Orphan Sunday" & led us to start the 10 classes. 
We went to an information meeting. 
We turned in our background checks. 
We went and got our fingerprints done by the nice officer. 
We waited. 
We started taking Monday night classes. 
(It was like a date night.) 
We loved the classes & the teachers. 

We were licensed in July & she entered our home in September. 
She was adopted the next August. (3 months after she turned 1) 
We are in a groove now. We have 4 beautiful children now. 
 I have people ask me if 4 is crazy. I tell them, 
"NO CRAZIER than 3....well,
Just a lot more counting. "

If you are wondering about starting classes or MAYBE just looking into adoption...
Let me encourage you to GO AND START the process.
Adoption isn't for everyone. It's not Jesus. ;) 
It IS the Father's HEART though. 
I know it isn't for everyone & I understand that completely.
I have many people tell me....
"We can't adopt, but WHAT CAN WE DO?" 

-Buy them Groceries. 
-give them a gift card.
-take classes to do respite  care.
-Write them a letter of encouragement.
-SPEAK LIFE into them.

This all may sound SO EASY & like an echo from another blog....
Oh wait. 
So many times we forget the SIMPLE things in life are what make LIFE so wonderful.
I think that many forget that we need to take care of our neighbor, our friends, our family, our community, our church family, etc. etc. 
Go check out these websites for more information.

It is true. Adoption is hard, but so is LIFE. So is parenting. So is a GOOD marriage.  We have disappointments. We have trials. We have UPS. We have low points. 
It is all about our outlook and how we want to move forward. Life moves on with or without us. There will always be a need to help others. WHY? We live in a fallen world. There is sin. I am a sinner. I fail daily. (hourly) Until The GOOD LORD returns there is always going to be a need to help others. 

But, FRIENDS.....
A soul is ALWAYS WORTH fighting for
When we stop fighting and decide to let someone else take care of it.....
WE ALL will suffer. Our community. Our WORLD. I sometimes go into that "WHAT IF" world...
What if we never would have started Foster Care?
What if I was too scared to say "YES" to that phone call?
What IF I would have said "NO to adoption?"
WHAT IF I would have listened to my fears & the other people that told me "WE WERE CRAZY" for wanting to adopt?
Dear exhausted friend.....
 Don't lose sight of the path God has placed before you, because of other people's insecurities or fears. Don't listen to their voices. There is ONLY ONE Voice you should be LISTENING for...listening to.....

You and your spouse get together & pray for that soul that YOU MAY JUST be connected to but haven't met yet....or maybe it's a child's face in the neighborhood.........or maybe a Child waiting on a list on a website...........

I will stand beside you in prayer & believe with you. I believe in YOU. 

Friday, May 23, 2014

How my kids taught me to be ADVENTUROUS.

Me: "Grandma! When you feel sad or heavy… what do you do to lift your spirit?" 

Granny B: "Well, I like to listen to your Mother's songs she writes…. it makes me think that even when I wasn't a perfect mom I did something right on this earth when I hear her songs about Jesus & who the Lord has singing them…Her accomplishing things makes me happy. She is accomplishing things for JESUS. She points me back to Jesus."

Aw. Motherhood. 
It's never about us…. even when we get down in the dumps & feel Mrs. Entitlement come knocking on our door. 
(speaking to myself here. serious) 
Who helps us see things clearly?
Our kids.
Who helps us be BRAVE?
Our kids.
Who helps us feel encouraged?
our KIDS.

I was with my Granny B for a good while yesterday. I stopped over to see her & brought the kids with me because they think McDonalds + Granny B is a GREAT day. 
Hashtag: it's the little things.
Hashtag: Granny B is the best.

Motherhood is such a tiring job, but honestly-truly---
it is a joy for me.
It brings new challenges EVERY day.
It shows me I need JESUS more NOW than ever. 
I am making decisions…DAILY that mold this little character before me.
I always giggle at people that say…
"I want to be adventurous first & Travel- then have kids."

I was never the adventurous type.
Motherhood has brought that. FORCED it out of me. 

& now Jonas.
have brought me out of my dull self-centered ways & opened my world into this thing called
 They have brought me back to what's IMPORTANT.
That it's not about going to NEW AND EXCITING places, but that going to GRANNY Bonnie's house is EXCITING! 
After all,
she has  OCEAN SHELLS  from Hawaii at her house! 
When we go to Amma & Papaw's house (my parents) 

Every day there is something new.
I can never plan a day out.
Sure. I can have errands I have to "run & do" that day.
But nothing settled. set.
Because with kids…..
Life is adventurous. 

A trip outside in our backyard is fun when you have kids...
I have watched my daughter stand on a 5 inch stump…
arms up….
TO her THAT stump is Queen Elsa's ICE CASTLE.
& she has conquered the world.
She sees her little sister fall & runs to her side…
singing "It's okay Eva. I'm here. You don't have to be afraid."

It's no wonder that Jesus told us that we must become like a child…..

They see everything different.

There are no "awkward after a fight hugs"….they forgive easy.
There are no "half smiles " at the grocery store with that someone that hurt your feels."….. they love easy.
There are no "stumps" that cannot be conquered…… they are BRAVE.
There are no bugs (ew.ew.ew.) that cannot be caught and kept in their BUG containers……
They live fearlessly.
America… the WORLD has twisted our mind to what ADVENTURE looks like.
Adventure can be found anywhere. 

When I asked my Granny B that question.
I was sharing some things I was heavy & burdened about….
Little did she know that her answer was FAR more healing than she thought. 
She found the secret to this whole MOTHERHOOD thing….

To take delight in her children.
Just like God does to us.

Our children point us back to Jesus. 
Love wins.
Jesus wins.

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Mom Grace > Mom Guilt.

Today is Sunday. Sunday is the day of rest. Although my Eva- girl does not quite understand this. She is back in her bed singing...."Bless the Lord, O my soul" for the 100th time to her sleeping sister and OUT LIKE A LIGHT brother. Oh, Eva. What you are teaching me......

The most rewarding & tiring gift I live each day. 

I have shared in the past about my struggle with post partum after Tristan was born. The dark cloud that hung over me. Mother's Day is coming up soon & Tristan wanted to know what that day was about. I just innocently told him that it was a day to celebrate Momma's & future Momma's..... to make them feel SPECIAL. 

I said to him, "Tristan. You were my first baby to make me a momma! YOU made my Mother's Day very special!" 

He smiled and asked, "What did I do for you?"

I smiled back at him and said, " A lot!" 

Oh, what he has done for me..Oh what my kids have done for me
... I began to think of everything they have brought into my life.....& taken away...I know some of you momma's can relate.

So I write to my children what THEY have done for me. 

Tristan, Livia, Evalynne, & baby Jonas-

You have taught momma so much about life. You have taught me to live it to the fullest, that messy is ok, to stop & listen & WATCH the birds, to enjoy change, to choose JOY, to use your words when feeling frustrated..... 
You've taught me that a shower is OVERRATED & that bathing my babies is much better. 

That food is most important to growing little humans. That my movie's aren't as good as I remembered, but FROZEN is good the 1,000th time. 

Children's books are the best books. 
That white is not just for Spring but it's also to see messy finger marks on it to remind me that I am 
loved & wanted. 

That sleep is for the bears. 
That late nights are for rocking, singing, praying you to sleep. 

That little girls fingernails are for being painted. 

Who knew that lotion could smell that good on a body? 

All these years I've been uncomfortably walking in heels... the day you taught me that bending down to get a child is easier in FLATS.... GLORAY!  

And who knew that I could be a  Princess, Pirate, Mermaid, Queen, Shark, Basketball player, & a cookie monster all in one day?? Before I knew you, I was just me. 

You've taught me that prayer is not as complicated as I've been making it out to be. 

You've taught me that GRACE is enough. 

That 6 people CAN fit in a queen size bed. 

That I matter. Mother's..... Stay at Home Momma's..... Working momma's..........Work at Home Momma's......... MATTER. We matter. Mother's MATTER.

I love you T, L, E, & baby J. 

-your momma

Mothers. Future Momma bears......... WOMEN.

The first thing that Satan is going to try and tell you is that YOU DO NOT MATTER. That you are not seen.  That the late nights, the baths, the staying at home days, the drop off the kids at daycare days, the DRIVING from soccer to school to piano practice.... that no one sees how exhausted you are....... that what you are doing is not important. 

Working Momma's. I hear your heart. My best friend works. I see her tears & her "guilt" she can carry around with her. But something you all need to hear...something i tell her..... is that those kids won't remember the work days, but they WILL remember YOU holding them, reading to them, tucking them in at night, taking walks with them, teaching them to ride a bike,  watching their favorite movie with them..... THEY WILL remember the time you spent with them, not the time spent at work. 
Why? Because they will remember YOU. They L O V E you. 

So do not buy into the lies that you are not seen.
Be you. Be a help to other momma's that need a lift in their spirit. Because we are all tired. we are all busy. we are all raising the next generation. Encourage one another. 

Don't be prideful, but take PRIDE in your children. 

One of the best things my mom ever taught me is that you don't have to have ONE and ONLY ONE best friend. That God made us all different & to embrace those differences. WE, as women, should encourage one another in this journey. Not tear each other down. Not look down that their child isn't reading yet or that they aren't disciplining like you think they should. 
Put your GRACE FILLED glasses on & love. Encourage them. 

You never know when Grace might need to be extended to you. So reach with one hand holding onto GRACE & the other hand holding onto LOVE. Place them into that mother's hand & tell her she is doing a good job! BREATHE LIFE into her. Place HOPE into her hands. Be like Jesus.
During this BUSY season... looking around seeing NEW LIFE.... green grass.... flowers....

think about JESUS this EASTER season..... Picture him on the cross.
Hands open wide.
One arm open for GRACE. The other arm open for LOVE.
All for HOPE. 
Extend hope.


Love you dear friends.